A Bitter View

My partner in my film class gave me a little game in the library. He explained how his brother was so good with words if someone was asking him for money he’d turn it around and makes them give him money. That shit seems far fetched but at the same time I can believe it. I let him know about my interview Tuesday afternoon and he basically told me that if I truly want it to not take “no” for an answer. Even when it came to approaching a woman, continue through the disses and the no till you wear her down. I didn’t see the logic in that. It was then he segued into the interview again and how I should approach it once I get the 2nd interview. Behind us was a cute young librarian updating the monthly magazines. He turns to her and says “Aint that right miss?” Of course she wasn’t paying attention and when she turned to him she cracked a smile and replied “I don’t know what im saying right too”. He then gives her a 2 minute briefing on us and out project that we’re working on. She dug it and then left to get more magazines. He then tells me “And that’s how you open up to a stranger” then a minute later she return and hands him a card. “I’d like to know more, call me some time so we can chat about it.” He replies “I’m definitely gonna call!” As quick as that transaction when I was impressed; I wondered if I could do the same.

When I got home I hit my self-help book on starting conversation. I realize convo/communication with the opposite sex is something I need work on. I'm told I come off cold and mysterious and not the interesting kind. Eventually I’ll put my knowledge from these books to use and see how it works out. Also talking what my partner said im not about wearing a lady down so that she’ll give me a number because that number can be a wrong one just to get you away from her. I’ve watched many ways dudes approach ladies and out of my observation there’s no real wrong way. It all depends on her mood. My lab manager favorite ice breaker is a plain old “what’s up!” he’s a talkative dude but at the same time the fool got green eyes so I realize ladies like shit like that. Another dude I talk to a lot is this cat what makes me want to apologize to ladies because his ice breakers begin with “Pssst” or “Excuse me” the first one makes me wanna cop block him on purpose. He always strikes out anyway so I guess I have nothing to worry about. If there’s anything to admire then it would be the fact that he isn’t that attractive but his confidence is high. I realize if a man were to ask out 50 women he’s lucky to get more than one number. He takes this in stride and continues. Good for him.

A homie of mine recently broke up with his girl; He’s a comic book geek (I can say that about myself) like me. He was a lucky gentleman to have had a girlfriend that like the same stuff he did. Now their broken up, He fears he wont find another woman who will be at least open-minded about his hobbies. He feels after 3 rejections, it aint worth it. I feel the same way, my father told me he’s like that as well (thank goodness he works at a place where the woman ratio to men is 2 to 1) hell, a lot of men do. I know now that a lot of men have to be built for rejection. Women can’t handle rejection Like men can which is why a lot don’t do the approaching but they always have a new man lined up to be with once the current is out the picture. What I’ve also observed is the act is similar to interview to jobs. You try to give it your all and muster faux confidence on the exterior; deep inside your wondering if you have a chance. The real you doesn’t come out till you know you’ve landed it. What I’m saying is approaching it something im learning but not yet doing. As my confidence builds the more rejection will be more of me saying “iight cool, it’s been one!” than “Man, Fuck All ya’ll”