I remember me and my boys were coolin at our school lounge and we were talking bout females (hoes to some, bitches to others, broads to me) and we were discussing one particular female that hung out with us. She had a sister that was crazy because a few dudes used her as a bustdown (whut we in the Chi call out particular fuck buddies) and she ends up having feelings but they don’t. Anyway, my boy Yul said something that at the time we didn’t believe; “Her sister looks better than she does (yeah he was bogus like that), A dude in a relationship with her will put up with her just to keep hitting it.”
The majority of us (and we were 12 deep) were like hell naw! He stood his ground by saying there’s more shit you’ll take from a broad if she’s fine or got dat good monkey! Now that im older, I realize how we’re all caught up on beauty cuz we all trying to get the best we can get. I notice that shit is true. It’s the same thing with women as well. As long as the dude lays the pipe well, got money or is fine (women hate competition). She’ll stick with him longer. I feel that’s a shift in power. It’s when one person in a relationship has more pull than the other. It’s a shift because when the couple breaks up we see who cared for whom more by who breaks down and cries first. I feel it’s an interesting thing, a subject about relationships people don’t talk about. Why do we do it to ourselves? We lower our self respect for ourselves just to stay in an eventually dying relationship that could be squashed quickly. Even a conclusion is up in the air; I can’t see any other remedy other than finding someone you’re not attracted to hold your position of power.